Yesterday Mark and I spend a 10 hour day in one of our required adoption classes. This one focused on international adoptions. Shaila is the international adoption guru with our home study agency. She took us through a day of things to think about that Mark and I had not honestly even thought about. She held nothing back and definitely told it like it is! By 10 our brains were exhausted, by 1 we were overwhelmed and by 5 we were wondering what we have gotten ourselves into. It didn't change our mind, if anything we felt like a unified team even more ready to commit.
I considered Shaila a sign, more of an angel actually. Shaila is an Indian woman that has two Indian children she adopted over 17 years ago (domestiaclly, which I still can't believe!). She not only knows the legalities of just about every country, but she can relate to how it feels to be an Indian woman going through the adoption process. See...an angel to help me through this.
Shaila spent some time talking about the reactions of adoption from different perspectives. I very much connected with what she was saying. Since telling folks we are adopting, it's not always the same reaction you get as if you say, "I'm pregnant!" You don't get asked about your emotions, physical state, planning for baby, etc.... as you do when you are physically pregnant. It makes you worried about how your child will be treated/viewed when they arrive home. This is such a difficult journey that is very misunderstood. So, yes, we are pregnant! It just may take longer than 9 months to deliver our baby. :)
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