Before we were even married, I knew I could not wait to start a family with Mark. So, it was tough to find out about my infertility issues. Not impossible, but slim. Four years in to our marriage, slim is sure feeling like impossible. We looked into international adoption from India in our second year of marriage (high hopes), but found out that Indian law said we weren't married long enough to move forward. That, along with other Indian adoption laws, it looked like it wasn't possible (low hopes). A year later, we worked up the courage to try domestic adoption (high hopes). It takes a lot to put yourself out there because once you do, you expose your emotions. Here was a 2nd try. After speaking with one agency, they told us they wouldn't even accept our money because Indian babies aren't likely (low hopes). After doing some research, we saw an agency in San Francisco that has formerly worked through adoptions of Indian children. I called, they said highly unlikely (lower hopes). Emotions out there and another disappointment.
The roller coaster of emotions are hard. Heart wrenching. But, I'm ready to try again. Mainly because there's nothing else that is as desirable as starting a family with Mark.
In the last couple of weeks, I made contact with an agency for India adoptions. The first step is to get an OCI (Overseas Citizen of India) card that shows I am of Indian descent. With this card, a younger child is possible. I called the Indian consulate today....I need an Indian passport from a grandparent! Without it, no OCI. Without OCI, minimum of a 6 year old.
So, the hunt is on for an Indian passport of my grandparents. I'm thinking the odds are slim...
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